Hello friends

Hello friends, new and old.

I am venturing out into the world of blogs, a world mostly unknown to me.  But I have been impressed to reach out.

I am a woman who has actively been seeking my own healing from the bumps and bruises of life for some time now.  I am just like you, born into an imperfect family. Now, don't get me wrong, I love my parents, even more as each new day arrives, but nevertheless,childhood had its share of  negative experiences.  Many of them were caused by my programming and how I choose to look at events. Research shows even falling off my tricycle could have caused me to be afraid of heights or could have conditioned me for failure.  There were also those who may have meant well, but whose words and behavior sometimes confused, pained and grieved me.  In summary,I have experienced a normal life like everyone else on the planet.

Then I grew up and met a wonderful and spectacularly handsome man (yes, Brent, you know who you are) and fell in love. Together we brought our burdens from childhood—baggage, if you will, into our home—we also brought painful and often unconscious programming to our marriage.  We began to unwittingly act out forms of behavior that were negative and unhealthy and that ended up hurting one another and our relationship.

 

For years, I thought—wow, life is so hard and I am so sad—but I guess that this is how life is meant to be.  Then, through the help of many good friends, I awoke from my sleep and realized I was living much of my life in an unhealthy and unproductive way.  I finally recognized the truth and said to myself, “I can change, I can do better.  I CAN be happy.”

Since that day, I have made many changes in my life, and with the Lord’s help, Brent and I have changed our patterns with each other and healed our marriage. I still have a ways to go and many hurdles I still look forward to overcoming, but I can honestly say that I’m happy. So, it is from that imperfect but much better place, a place where I am still growing, learning and experimenting, that I come to you.

I am very interested in my own healing, and because of the joy I have found after many long years of work, I am extremely excited to share what I have learned in my process to assist in THE HEALING OF WOMEN everywhere. I know within my soul that I/we are all children of God and have potential greater than we can imagine.  And I hope by sharing what I have learned, it may assist someone else in a faster healing than they otherwise would have obtained.

What exactly is healing?  The root word hale (as in “hale and hearty”) is the common root to words like whole, health, heal, and holy. I believe that healing is the process of becoming whole.  It is a way of life.  It is a life process of fulfilling all our potential, becoming all that we can be.  It is clearing the trauma of our past until we become at peace with ourselves and with the world.

Several of my children play the guitar.  Sometimes when I hear them practice, they have a string that is out of tune.  They correct it and that string resonates in harmony with the others.  Healing is the harmonizing of the unsettling frequencies within us.

 Another way to look at it is the peeling of the onion syndrome, as I put it. Let me give you an example.

 Years ago, I decided that I was ready to heal from a very traumatic experience.  As I put my mind to healing from this emotional injury, I prayed, read uplifting books, and focused on acting out wellness in my life. Sometimes when I felt awkward or puzzled about what to do, I would pretend that I was an actress on a grand stage. Surprisingly, that really helped.   From time to time, I was literally conscious that another unhealthy layer had fallen off my psyche, and had been replaced by a healthy new layer.  Today, I believe that event in my life is 95% cleared and has lost its power to hinder me.  Now I am working on healing other issues, but I can say, it is worth it. 

Take a leap of faith and risk to be healed.

We are all in need of healing.  Everyday in the earth school we have new lessons to learn.  Life is a continual process of healing and growing.  Every time we take a risk in the name of life, in the name of God, in the name of growth, we take a leap of faith into the unknown; we are healed in a deeper way.

To laugh is to risk appearing foolish.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is to risk involvement.

To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.

To hope is to risk despair.

To try is to risk failure.

To live is to risk dying.

             -Author unknown

Join me as I explore many aspects of healing in my life and the lives of others.

I recommend the book Risk to be Healed by Barry and Joyce Vissell. Ramira Publishing, 1989.